Being able to control oneself is a skill. Just like every skill it is something you must work on everyday until it is mastered. You cannot and will not let the opinions and comments and attitudes of the people around you affect the way you feel about yourself. Everyday we have to navigate the obstacles of obstruction of growth. Don’t help the helper. Duality is the key to keeping a level head and making righteous decisions concerning oneself. Even the toughest armor has chinks in it.